The clock's ticking with its little hand gone a whole lot forward since the last you looked at it, the day is flying without looking at you twice and you're sitting slouched in your chair, with either irked boredom or heavy dread. What went wrong? What is it that's keeping you? A negative feeling from some silly thought?
It is a mere thought, just a thought, that sets you to go forward with leaps and bounds, or holds you back and drags you yonder and down where you feel stubbed like a hot fire that once burned with a steady ongoing passion, put out by the cold water of fear and now lays forlorn in the scattered, wet ashes of lack of motivation.
How are you going to recapture that sunny optimism that you started out with? It wasn't mindless optimism! It was a well-balanced beaming hope for things to work out, and an inner strength of a belief that they will. But somewhere along the way, due to one blunder or another, you may have given up and thought - "Well, It's not worth the effort!" or "Well, I can't do it!" Listen to what you told yourself before you gave up. What was that precise thought? What made you throw your hands up in the air and then feel sunken with misery of a failure which is only in your head?
"Half of the failures in life come from pulling one's horse when he is leaping." - Thomas Hood
We have our times where we really feel good about something and jump up to it and say "Hey, I'm going to make this work!" and in the next breath due to one little error or another (which is usually to happen in any given case), you say, "Oh! What was I thinking?" These things alone, are enough to pull down your confidence and make you feel less and less and still less motivated. Motivation may come from support of those you love and those who love you back, but by the end of it it's the age-old traditional method that refuses to go, which is "Do it yourself!" So, how to motivate yourself?
When everything else outside seems to scream "No!", listen to yourself! Our subconscious is more of "Yeses" than "Nos"!
When you feel like your self-motivation has hit a jagged rock-bottom, assign yourself simple tasks that are easy to do. A lot of times if you give yourself laborious challenges to assert to yourself your motivation, and then give up half way, it would just be absolutely no good and leave you feeling worse than ever!
Tidy your desk, get out for a walk under the smiling sun or under crimson skies. Walking always helps clear any dingy stagnant thoughts. There is a huge satisfaction gained in the process of doing and completing simple things, and a spring of boost in confidence too.
Whenever you talk to yourself, don't frame negative questions such as, "Why am I so bored?" Instead, ask yourself, "What can I do to make it better?" You'll be amazed at the outstanding number of solutions you get to that particular question, and you'll see how your mind and mood turn around from being passive to being optimistically active again.
"Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be." - Karen Ravn
Don't underestimate the value of being organized, having a clean room, a clean desk and putting everything in place. Cluttered surroundings make the mind filled with a chaotic jungle of cluttered thoughts, leaving no room for you to be able to feel organized in your internal being.
If you feel under too much pressure either from your parents, peers, work colleagues, or boss, ask yourself who are you doing it for? By the end of it, and as selfish as it may sound, everything we do is to gain satisfaction for ourselves, even if it means selfless social work. Seeing others happy in itself is our own happiness, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to do things for yourself.
Even professional athletes and sportsmen, despite the cheering of the crowd, face a lot of pre-game anxiety, that comes markedly due to the pressure of expectation. When you focus your energies into the work you're doing and not what others are expecting, you are bound to do it better.
A lot of people face lack of motivation when it comes to working out. The paragraph that follows tells a little about what you can do to get your motivation and you back into a better shape.
Working out is no sweat!
If you're deprived of motivation to exercise, think about the results of exercising. Don't terrify yourself by thinking that exercising is whipping your body to torture and into shape. Exercise is not so much pain and with the right attitude can be tremendous fun, releasing endorphins into your bloodstream, that give you a natural, sweetly intense rush.
Be realistic about your body-size and what you want to achieve in how much time. Talking to your personal fitness trainer is best when you're trying to set your goals and knowing how to go about it. Writing these down becomes a powerful incentive.
Be 'in the moment' when you exercise instead of traveling to other thoughts. Your goal should be something that is challenging yet achievable, so if you're a little on the heavy side, don't surround yourself with pictures and posters of scrawny models and surrender yourself to the animosity of this kind of wishful thinking.
Instead of saying you want to lose your weight, it's better to say that you want to reach your ideal weight. Make the purpose behind your goal clear to yourself, it will certainly help you in the long run to achieve it as there will be no confusion about it.
Are exams breathing down your neck?
Plenty of times, students have the ends of their pencils half-chewed, ruffled, miserable-looking hair and furrowed frowns of anxiety right before their exams. It's quite, quite normal for students to feel in their stomach as though they've swallowed a quart of butterflies, in this time. There are some ways to make it easier on yourself without bothering your head too much.
Make your revisions like a marathon and not sprints. You can always start out early in the day, but make sure you don't exhaust yourself out the night before. Sleep is medicine and you'll be able to remember much more after a quick power-nap than if you struggle to swallow in huge portions of text knowing that your mind and body are groaning of lack of sleep.
Get out to enjoy the breeze and take heart from nature and the weather. It always is a good change if things start getting monotonous. You work best if you take regular breaks (but don't overdo it). If you deprive yourself of breaks, studying starts getting more and more monotonous and hence boring.
Stress is a good motivational factor to study. But huge amounts of it resulting into lack of sleep, or eating problems is when you need to take time out to talk to your guide or friend or teacher about ways to relax. Exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet, which means avoiding junk foods as they sap tremendous amounts of energy and leave you feeling dulled out.
Make flow-charts and drawings of topics you may find difficult. Use visual aids as these are more beneficial than simply reading words that may seem a little mundane. Summarizing and writing things down after you've read them is a great way to remember notes. Discussing them further with a friend is an excellent idea, because when you say it again, you are bound not to forget it easily.
And finally remember, you're going to certainly get good grades for what you remember and not penalized for what you don't. So keep a positive attitude, get enough amount of sleep, take breaks, keep your mind fresh and active, eat healthy food and then go strutting with confidence to your exam, knowing it's going to be fantastic and even more fantastic are your holidays awaiting on the other side of it, where you can sunbathe to your heart's content!
There is no best, but there is always a better!
Feeling demotivated may be an effect due to some sort of underlying depression or fear. A lot of people who feel demotivated are misunderstood, as it isn't the motivation they lack entirely, but are very deeply sensitive to getting everything 'right'; which means that they have an overt tendency to be perfectionists. It isn't bad to be a perfectionist, but it can get that way if it has been a hindrance to what you've set yourself to achieve. Know that you can always do something better by being innovative in your approach or by adapting to those you or someone else has already used to do a particular task.
Fear of mistakes kills all creativity, and no creativity can be put forth if you don't take a chance. Creativity requires courage to take a risk, with the knowledge that you may face consequences that aren't always positive. Be creative in your approach and outlook toward life, and it can bring about a whole wind of change that is capable of wondrous transformations.
Popular techniques of visualization, meditation, exercise and affirmation help you with your clarity of thought so that you don't bumble too much, once you set to achieve what it is that you want to. When you visualize something and you see it happen in your mind, and breathe it in like it's real, it's half your battle won! There is great power in believing. It takes the spanner out of your works with incredible results!
"All that we are is the result of what we have thought." - Buddha
By: Madhura Panse
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